From Shy to Social in Madrid

It’s difficult to meet new people. That’s probably one of the biggest challenges when you move somewhere new—and honestly, it’s something I really struggled with at the beginning.

I can be quite introverted, so forming connections when I moved to Spain didn’t come naturally. I met people here and there and tried a few new things, but I was also pretty shy and nervous. Speaking in a second language didn’t help either. Even if your level is decent, it’s hard to fully be yourself, and that can feel quite intimidating. I kept thinking, how am I supposed to connect with people if I can’t even express myself properly? And where do I even go to meet them?

One thing I quickly realised about Madrid is that there’s no shortage of things to do. There are so many hobbies, classes, and activities you can try. I had always liked the idea of taking a dance class—something like salsa or bachata—but I kept putting it off. I’d never danced before, the classes would be in Spanish, and the thought of walking into a room full of strangers just felt like too much. So instead, I stuck to what felt safe… which, in reality, didn’t get me very far. I found myself feeling quite lonely and struggling to meet people I really connected with.

After a while, I got frustrated with myself. I had moved to a completely new country—surely that was scarier than trying a dance class? So one day, kind of on impulse, I signed up for bachata and salsa classes. No overthinking, just booked it.

And honestly, it was the best decision I could’ve made.

From the first class, people were welcoming and open. The teacher was patient, the atmosphere was relaxed, and most importantly—it was fun. That one decision completely changed my experience here. I suddenly had a group of kind, supportive friends, I felt more confident meeting new people, and I’d found a hobby that I genuinely love. If anything, I just wish I’d done it sooner.

If there’s one piece of advice I’d give to anyone moving somewhere new—especially if you’re a bit more reserved like me—it’s this: get comfortable with being a little uncomfortable. Put yourself out there, even if it feels intimidating. Most of the time, it’s nowhere near as scary as you imagine.

Try something new. Go to that class. Say yes to things, even if you’re not 100% sure. Madrid has so much to offer, and there are so many people in the exact same position as you. You’ll find people who are patient, welcoming, and just as keen to connect.

Sometimes, all it takes is one small, brave decision to completely change your experience.